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Networking for people who hate networking

You don't need to work a room or collect business cards. Modern networking is being modestly useful to a small number of people, repeatedly.

By Daniel Brooks · 2026-06-15

Networking for people who hate networking

If 'networking' conjures name tags and forced small talk, good news: the effective version looks nothing like that. It's a habit of small, genuine usefulness.

The introvert-proof system

  • Two touchpoints a week — congratulate a launch, share an article with a 'this made me think of you', answer a question in a community.
  • Depth over breadth — 25 people who actually know your work beat 2,500 connections.
  • Give first, ask rarely — a year of small deposits makes the eventual ask feel natural to both sides.
ReframeYou're not 'networking'. You're being a decent professional peer in public. That's the whole trick.